Oh Aleks. This is such a fantastic piece. I love the bullseye exercise. It’s such a great way to get thoughts in order around what values we want to work towards.
I also relate so deeply to your call for self-care. As a mum of 2 myself, it is so easy to forget about our own needs whilst caring for our young families. My sons are 3.5yrs and 7months and as I read your experiences, I had a visceral response.
Here’s to the next 5 years of growth and working from chaos to calm 🥰 You will rediscover yourself I’m sure of it. X
Aleks, do you have to be 35 to do the almost 40 assessment?! I turn 34 in April, but with a 3-year-old and a 1-year-old, I feel 100 🤣
I love seeing Rest on a list of values. I also spent a moment on the bull’s eye and realized that, over the last year, I’ve been hyper-focused on self-care with relationships second and the other two nonexistent! Reflecting back, I wonder how much of that felt like a necessity--like if I DONT prioritize myself, can I survive this?!
Hi Alycia. I'm glad to hear that you found the values exercise helpful. To me (and potentially other women who can relate as well), slowly but steadily approaching 40 feels like crossing some mythical barrier. I have so many mixed feelings about it, which itself poses a great reflection. I think your point about prioritizing yourself is really accurate. I would love to engage in more self-care activities out of 'want' rather than 'need' (because, as you said, you cannot survive otherwise). Thank you for reading and sharing your thoughts! ❤️
Great read Aleks! I really like the idea of focusing on values and 1% improvements- I often fall into a Bridget Jonesy trap of deciding to revolutionise absolutely everything about myself in contradictory ways. Could totally relate to the rollercoaster comment. Thanks for sharing!
Thank you, Beverley! Don't get me wrong - when I think about change, I think BIG! However, with very minimal, not to say minuscule, amounts of time, I have learned to slow down. And reading 'The Tortoise and the Hare' with my son reminds me that 'slow and steady wins the race'! 😉
Thanks for sharing the bullseye exercise! Looking forward to trying it out. I’m 35 too and I feel like I’m just emerging from the haze of the last 5 years and 2 kids. Such a strange, hard, joyful 5 years.
Oh Aleks. This is such a fantastic piece. I love the bullseye exercise. It’s such a great way to get thoughts in order around what values we want to work towards.
I also relate so deeply to your call for self-care. As a mum of 2 myself, it is so easy to forget about our own needs whilst caring for our young families. My sons are 3.5yrs and 7months and as I read your experiences, I had a visceral response.
Here’s to the next 5 years of growth and working from chaos to calm 🥰 You will rediscover yourself I’m sure of it. X
Oh thank you, Natasha! It is such a wild ride, isn't it?
I am glad you enjoyed Bulls Eye. I think I need to share a blank copy now with some instructions!
Yes please do, I love having tools such as that at my disposal so I'll definitely sign up! X
Aleks, do you have to be 35 to do the almost 40 assessment?! I turn 34 in April, but with a 3-year-old and a 1-year-old, I feel 100 🤣
I love seeing Rest on a list of values. I also spent a moment on the bull’s eye and realized that, over the last year, I’ve been hyper-focused on self-care with relationships second and the other two nonexistent! Reflecting back, I wonder how much of that felt like a necessity--like if I DONT prioritize myself, can I survive this?!
Thank you for this lovely post 💖
Hi Alycia. I'm glad to hear that you found the values exercise helpful. To me (and potentially other women who can relate as well), slowly but steadily approaching 40 feels like crossing some mythical barrier. I have so many mixed feelings about it, which itself poses a great reflection. I think your point about prioritizing yourself is really accurate. I would love to engage in more self-care activities out of 'want' rather than 'need' (because, as you said, you cannot survive otherwise). Thank you for reading and sharing your thoughts! ❤️
Great read Aleks! I really like the idea of focusing on values and 1% improvements- I often fall into a Bridget Jonesy trap of deciding to revolutionise absolutely everything about myself in contradictory ways. Could totally relate to the rollercoaster comment. Thanks for sharing!
Thank you, Beverley! Don't get me wrong - when I think about change, I think BIG! However, with very minimal, not to say minuscule, amounts of time, I have learned to slow down. And reading 'The Tortoise and the Hare' with my son reminds me that 'slow and steady wins the race'! 😉
Thanks for sharing the bullseye exercise! Looking forward to trying it out. I’m 35 too and I feel like I’m just emerging from the haze of the last 5 years and 2 kids. Such a strange, hard, joyful 5 years.
I am a big fan of values exercises for guidance!
Same! :)
The bull's eye exercise is intriguing. I've never seen it before, but will definitely think about where I would be on it now!
I really do recommend it! Such a quick and enlightening way of mapping what truly matters out!